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What Happens to Girls like Us?


  • Trish
    Posted June 7, 2021 at 2:14 pm

    Girls like us are usually not considered marriage materials but who gives a flying fuck! Love yourself,live your life and be happy

  • Kate
    Posted June 8, 2021 at 7:34 am

    The words of that German lyric poet is going to my status this morning. Yup!

  • Chizzy Umeh
    Posted June 8, 2021 at 8:34 am

    marriage should be mutually beneficial, it requires sacrifices on both ends. it’s no longer marriage when one serves the other rather than both serving each other.

  • Felz
    Posted June 9, 2021 at 7:53 am

    I have always known that I wouldn’t slave away for my husband as my mother did and is still doing at a really tender age especially when she’s even currently taking care of 95% of the bills.

    I’m ok being unmarried, happy and fresh-looking than losing myself because no man would keep me as a wife. I’m the prize yo.

  • Ibrahim
    Posted June 9, 2021 at 2:20 pm

    This is very on point.

    It’s actually a turn off for me when the lady only wants to serve. I see marriage as a business venture where we put in equal efforts for our mutual benefits and not a ruler/ruled relationship.

  • Nwode Chinelo
    Posted June 9, 2021 at 4:43 pm

    As heard in a movie I have just seen, change won’t happen on its own. Someone has to initiate it.

  • Blessing
    Posted June 10, 2021 at 7:44 am

    I know exactly what I want my marriage to look like and being a slave is nowhere close to what I see myself becoming.

    As she said, calmness, happiness, and peace of mind, anything outside of this, I’ll cling to being happily single.

  • Olaowo Zainab
    Posted June 10, 2021 at 10:42 am

    Girls like us thrive

    • DuDu
      Posted June 12, 2021 at 9:32 am

      Yes we do😌

  • Moh'korode
    Posted June 16, 2021 at 2:00 pm

    Girls like us rule, mutual benefits in marriage, we’re in it together

  • Rukayat
    Posted June 16, 2021 at 7:23 pm

    I agree with you marriage should be mutually beneficial and not a marriage is one is serving the other rather the marriage where both is serving each other. I remember whenever I talk about the type of marriage I want, people are so quick to say you won’t find a husband or who will marry you but I don’t pay no mind because I know what I want and it valid.

  • Yvonne
    Posted June 16, 2021 at 9:44 pm

    This is a nice article. Although I’ll respectfully like to point out that some people actually don’t see cooking for their husbands as ‘slavery’ and punishment o. PS: The problem is not the cooking itself as it is the mindset behind the two people involved.
    I believe marriage is about two people joyfully serving each other and not selfishly finding an excuse to call everything slavery. If you marry someone with a great mindset (who doesn’t see your service as slavery), then trust me, you can by all means serve joyfully – whether it’s cooking, cleaning, ironing, etc. – just do it joyfully. You’ll be glad to serve a man who sees your service as a blessing to him and not as an entitlement or as slavery.
    Again, The goal is to change the mindsets, and not destroy the idea.

    On the other hand, I’ll sincerely advice to not get married if you cannot submit to a man that you call ‘husband’ (especially if you’re a Christian because you already know what’s up).


    • Toby
      Posted June 17, 2021 at 4:40 pm

      “You’ll be glad to serve a man who sees your service as a blessing to him and not as an entitlement or as slavery.”

      The question is, will the man serve you back?

  • Yetunde
    Posted June 16, 2021 at 10:58 pm

    I find it scary that there is no suggestion of the man cooking for himself. All other options are considered except him doing it himself.

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  • Oyinkansola
    Posted August 12, 2021 at 9:52 am


  • Rukky Otive-Igbuzor
    Posted October 8, 2021 at 11:47 am

    This is absolutely on point! 👏🏾 “In the end we’re the ones who change timeworn traditions, who fight against injustice and become activists”. Absolutely love that!

  • Abdullahi D. Hassan
    Posted November 10, 2021 at 12:54 pm

    Marriage is a conduit of happiness and compatibility. Score of African men, for ages, define marriage as an institute of bondage via they will bask in sexual gratification, cooking food and born kids. Men should be companions in marital life, not wardens.

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