Aziza Kibibi Mc-Gill-Ayinde is an American author, activist, speaker, podcaster, and YouTuber. She suffered decades of abuse from her father and is now known for authoring “Unashamed: a life tainted…volumes 1 and 2,” where she recounts her experience with her abusive father. Kibibi is also the founder of Precious Little Ladies Inc. (PLL). This organization aims to strengthen the bond between mothers and daughters to combat child abuse, domestic violence, incestuous abuse, and sexual assault.
Kibibi was born September 10, 1977, in Paterson, New Jersey, where she was also raised. Her mother, Beverly Ayinde, worked as a business clerk before becoming a full-time housewife. Her father, Aswad Ayinde, also known as Charles McGill, is a convicted rapist. Before his sentencing, he was a Grammy award-winning music video producer famous for producing the music video for Killing Me Softly by The Fugees.
Kibibi’s father maintained a tightly controlled household, homeschooling Kibibi and her other siblings. Although she was allowed to interact with the other kids in the neighbourhood during the early parts of her childhood, her father grew more controlling and abusive. He moved the family around New Jersey multiple times to avoid consequences for his actions.
Kibibi revealed that her father started raping her when she was eight years old and impregnated her five times. While the abuse went on, her father would make her feel special and assure her that he was trying to make her into a “better woman.” Apart from sexual abuse, he was also physically abusive towards Kibibi and her siblings. Whenever Kibibi or her sisters confronted or resisted him, he would hit them with heavy tools like boards, knives, stools, steel-toed boots, etc. His punishments were severe and sometimes included sodomy. He also cut them off from seeing medical doctors, forcing Kibibi’s mother to treat their kids and deliver their babies at home. During the trial, he would later reveal that he is a prophet who had foreseen the end of the world, and only his family would be spared, hence the need to create a pure bloodline by impregnating his daughters.
Two of Aziza’s children (with her father) were born with Phenylketonuria. This rare birth defect causes the amino acid phenylalanine to build up in the body and can lead to seizures, brain damage, and intellectual disabilities. Her last child from her father’s abuse, Koko, was born with muscular dystrophy, a genetic disease characterized by progressive weakness and loss of muscle mass and Phenylketonuria. Koko succumbed to her condition and died in 2010 at the age of 9.
Kibibi tried to run away from her father many times, but her efforts proved abortive. In 2002, her son began to experience seizures, and she took him to the hospital. A social worker noticed her situation at the hospital, and eventually, she and her children were removed from her home. Her children were also removed from her care by the Department of Children Protection and Permanency in New Jersey and were placed in several foster homes.
In 2006, Kibibi and her sisters brought criminal charges against their abuser. In 2011, he was charged with over 28 crimes, and by 2013, prosecutors had completed 2 out of the five trials against Ayinde. He was sentenced to 90 years imprisonment and is still awaiting three trials.
Aziza Kibibi is the author of “Unashamed: a life tainted,” published in May 2015. She hosted the show “Up Close and Personal” on WZYE 95.9FM and the podcast Self Published, where she talks about her journey publishing her first book and offers advice and inspiration to writers and publishers. She also runs a youtube channel called I Am Aziza Kibibi, where she posts content on being a mom, author, chef, and survivor. Kibibi is the founder and CEO of a social progression organization called Precious Little Ladies Inc. (PLL), which fights child molestation, domestic violence, and sexual abuse.
In 2019, the global women’s organization Soroptomist named Kibibi as the recipient of one of its Women’s Opportunity Awards with a $10,000 towards completing her studies.